Five Minute Friday: Visit

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Gentle Reader,

Chit-chatting with Kate and the crew about the sacred, the mundane and the in-between. Tonight we: visit.


I’m fascinated by the Myers-Briggs personality profiles. As an INTJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging) person (and a female one at that, which is apparently rare), learning about the different types and how everyone navigates the world is right up my alley. I love seeing how things interconnect. I’m fascinated by both patterns and differences.

Yet as much as people intrigue me, they drain me. If you imagine a turtle pulling himself deep inside his shell, that would be me. I like alone time. I cherish alone time. I jealously guard alone time.

And then all of a sudden I pop out and go, “Where’s the party?”

I got to do that this past Saturday. The hubs and I invited a few friends over for a visit, something I haven’t been able to do since before I had surgery. I don’t dive into friendship quickly or easily, so I’ve had the same core group for about 10 years. Three of my dearest relationships stretch back to high school. When we get together, in whatever combination, the banter flies fast and heavy – and then turns abruptly to matters like politics and theology.

There’s such joy in that.

Such sweet comfort in the bouncing from the silly to the serious, knowing that the jests are made with a gentle heart and the thoughts shared have been weighed and considered.

I may not speak to any one of my friends on a daily or even weekly basis, but there is a love that connects us. If one of them needed a kidney and I was a match, there’d be no questions about it.

My heart swelled with warmth as I sat on my little corner of the couch and looked into those dear faces squished into every nook of the tiny living room. I was tired and sore. I’m always tired and sore these days. But I was so very glad to have arranged that visit.


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20 thoughts on “Five Minute Friday: Visit

  1. No way! I’m an INTJ too! I totally get what you mean with the tortoise metaphor. I feel like I need to cox myself out of my shell all the time, but it’s so worth engaging in community! (As long as I can still have my alone time to recharge.) 🙂


    1. You know what they say: Finding an INTJ woman is like finding a unicorn. So here’s to our awesomeness!

      And you’re right; Coming out of the shell is quite worth it.


  2. Oh I love that you did this – even when not feeling well… that you know the value of investing well! Love you, friend So proud of you!


  3. I also don’t have friends that I talk to on a daily basis but they are the kind that I know I can call at 3 am just because I am scared and need to talk or I can not talk to for weeks and their love for me will not change. I love that you were able share time with them.


  4. I love that you make community important to you. I’m blessed to have a group of friends. I call them my Go Through Life friends. We do life together–helping when surgeries happen, husbands travel and celebrating each other. There’s such joy in that, isn’t there?

    I hope your recovery goes smoothly and the pain lessens!

    Visiting from FMF. 🙂


  5. I love this, your sweet spirit definitely has come out! You sound a lot like me, though I have not taken that personality test. There is definitely something about alone time that pulls us closer to God and to ourselves in amazing ways. Praying you feel better!



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